Hello everyone,
Happy Holidays to everyone!!! This week we read up to page 88 Dharma God. We spoke about Step Three and turning it over, about acceptance and letting go, and how sometimes acceptance requires action on our part. Also, how our intention determines the outcome of our behavior.
This week's discussion question is from page 88 - "What is difficult to accept about yourself?" And do you believe that those things are things you can't change?
I find this a very interesting question because in my journey of self-awareness and discovery I have found things and behaviors about myself that I really don't like and that I no longer need to accept as "Just how I am". That was my favorite excuse to avoid making changes or accepting responsibility in earlier days, and certainly in my addiction. Now, I know that it is always a choice - that I can make a different more "skillful" choice now that I have more awareness and more sobriety. I can choose not to buy those cookies I don't want to eat, rather than have them in my house and then give in to eating them all. I can choose not to waste my time trying to rewrite the past and live in the "what if's" and instead be grateful for every step on my journey that has brought me to where I am today and who I am. I can learn to embrace change in small ways so I'm better prepared for the big changes life throws at you, rather than just telling myself that I hate change. That is not "skillful" and doesn't help me. I'm grateful that I can see these things and work on changing them, rather than just "accepting" them as written in stone and who I am.
What about you?
Hi Lori, thanks for a great meeting last week. The meeting was really good. Step 3 is a great step that freed me to be my authentic self. Gave me the power of choice and an open mind. The difficult things to accept today are that I am addicted to everything that feels good, looks good or tastes good. I believe I can change how I feel about that by being mindful about my choices. Being aware of the addictive behaviors and not giving in to them. I struggle with the COOKIES and the BOYS. I remain open to knowing that I get to make choices based on what's important to me and how I feel in my body; asking my higher power to guide me and help me when I am struggling with the choices. I am grateful for the ability to make choices today. Happy New Year!!! See you Jan 6th.